Much of the therapy and self-improvement literature contain references to the “self”, as in “self-acceptance”, “self-love”, “compassion for yourself”, “self-hatred”, and “self-esteem”. These all imply a relative stability of personal characteristics, and an implication of an “agent in charge” of our actions. If our…
A tool used in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) that plays an essential role in promoting personal growth is “reframing”, which involves looking at a past or present experience in a new way. The experience is being viewed in a negative way and “reframing the…
Imagine that you are in a completely dark room and that you have a flashlight in your hands. Unbeknownst to you, you are facing a wall on which there is hanging a beautiful tapestry of your entire life, with every aspect of your life…
One of the best tools we have for achieving personal growth is our virtual “restart button”, that is, whenever we have an intention to think and act in a new way, and we do not carry out our intention successfully, we can push an…
For most people, having close relationships with others is considered to be an important part of having a happy life. One of the keys to having successful relationships is effective communication. There are two major components of our communications with others: first, someone has…
Try an experiment-pick one area of your life and live in two different ways. First, experience it with thoughts and statements like “this is something I absolutely need, so I have to seek it and keep it, and my actions can best be described…
